Rebelious rules by Kristina Gallo

Imagine you must represent your work in public. Thousand people stare at you and watch your every move. Suddenly, phobia made power, and you freeze in the place. Your voice is trembling, your body is shaking and now you have a panic attack. Now it is getting worse. You will see mocking in their faces, you will hear laughter and insults. This is not a movie, this is something that happens to you. Spending years fighting the fear of public appearance, I learned some tricks to relax. Focus. Remember what is your primary purpose, why you come here. Practice. Have a public appearance when you get the opportunity. It means workdays, seminars, and interviews.  Choose a small step. Zoom that happens in your room is a good intro. If you can't stand up in front of hundred people, you can open a camera in your room.  Remember, ignorance prevails. Many people who come to listen to you are not listening. They just want to be anywhere to kill their boredom. Pick your role models. Some peopl...

Nowadays many people wish to be popular. Everyone sees a chance to become an influencer, or celebrity, and it takes a lot of followers.  How do get the correct number of followers? How to get a thousand, million people to follow you? Why would they follow you? These are questions that need an answer. One of the answers is to pay your followers with boosting. Many applications offer this for money, and people will spam your inbox on social media to get you.  If you pay your followers, you will get what you need to know, but it is not permanent. The algorithm on Instagram will delete your followers. You might lose your account. People can accuse you of spam if you offer them a follower boost. Those followers are not people for interaction, they are numbers. Don't expect comments and sharing from them. Having a lot of followers with some tools is an illusion. It doesn't mean real people follow you and recognize your talent. It means you bought attention and affection.  Do yo...

The reason why someone should make you feel inferior always exists. The roots could be deep in his personality, in his character, or in competition. If a woman wants to steal your man, she will gossip about you. "She is ugly, stupid, poor, promiscuous." If someone wants to steal your job, he will try to make you humiliated. "He is lazy, unable to do this job, and his skills are zero." If someone denies your talent, he will say that you need help from an expert or minorize your values. Also, the person will ask for money to develop your talent.  Success is not for weak people. As Dostojevski said: "Don't stand to hit every dog in your path with a rock ." No, you have no time for this .  Envy and jealousy will make your opponent weak. He will slow down his progress, while you will go faster.  Success is focused on progress. We are going toward the future, not toward the past. Don't look back, you are not going that way. If I would t...

Looking for a new job? Searching for a partner? Fighting with workmates? These are all situation that needs support. People are like that, they expect someone to hold their side, but it doesn't happen like they imagine. You can't depend on others' support because even if you get it, it will be temporary. People are used to changing sides, and once you did something wrong, your support will vanish. If you are an ordinary person who is not well-positioned in the business world or if you are not rich, you can't count on many people.  Remember the facts: People usually avoid being involved in others' conflicts.  Someone will support you if you give something to him. Give money, return the favor. You will get support if you have a common enemy.  Your support must have more power than your enemy, otherwise, it is useless.  I learned a long time ago, whatever I do, I must learn at myself at first. Everything else is a bonus or a su...

Be good to people and they will fool you. True or not? There is a story about a man who accepted a snake in the house, and a snake bites him. While he was dying, he asked: "Why did you do this?" "Because I am a snake" she answered. This old legend talks a lot about human nature. You need not show your soft heart and gentle manners to everyone, hoping to receive it back.  The trouble starts when people remember you as a nice person. You are always available to make someone smile . To do favors. To get up in the middle of the night if your doorbell rings. Now, your boundaries are crossed , and you ride a broomstick. The witch is here, how so? You had too much on your plate and it is time to kick asses. People on your list: A friend who calls you only when he needs something. A lover who uses you only for sex. The boss asks you to work overtime when nobody wants this. The neighbor who makes noise even you warned him more times. People coul...

Did you ever been in a situation where someone let you like him? He loves your attention, the time that you give him, and your kindness. He is nice toward you because you treat him like a king. But, if you want his heart, you will not get it, because his heart belongs to someone else. Some women make mistakes to get close to a man through friendship. Just because you are always here for him, it doesn't mean you will get his love. Love needs distance, conflicts, and chemistry to develop. Such women will ask, but why did he choose her who was mean toward him, but not me who was always there? Men are hunters. If their trophy is easy to get, they will play like with a rabbit. If you are not an easy trophy, if you run, their hunter's instinct will grow.  Clint got married recently. His wife was beautiful and young, but he craved to be with another woman. He knew her for years, but she was kind of nasty toward him. Her tongue was always fast, she teased him and mad...

In your life, people will reject you. They will say NO because there is no spot for you in someone's life. It happens. People are like in a puzzle game, sometimes you are the piece that doesn't fit in. Your attitude matters. It is not the same as how you accept rejection.  If you yell, scream or treat with revenge, you are childish. If you cry or beg, you are desperate. If you swallow this in silence and don't look back, you are mature. During life, you will lose business opportunities. You will lose partners for relationships. You will lose friends. Even if you are very smart and exquisite, there will always be someone who will say NO. Do you think you can have every man if you are a beautiful woman? You are wrong. Rejection doesn't have to be in NO form, always.  This is also NO between lines: I want you, but only temporarily and sometimes. I want you, but only in my bed. I want you, but only as a second choice. ...

We are struggling with various problems. Someone can't be slim. Diets are not working out. Someone can't find a partner. Someone hates their job. We are sometimes in a situation that needs a way out, but the gate is not here. The worst thing you can do is to mark yourself as a loser. "I need to die." "I am not worthy, I can't do it." If you make statuses about this is social media, you will not get useful advice. You will get pity, mockery, or preaching. Remember, people don't know you personally, and they will run away from you because you don't like yourself, so how you could gain their affection? Too much positive attitude is also irritating, so these words make me nervous: The sun will shine for you too. Your time will come. Smile, life is short. Instead of this, I prefer to say: I am struggling, but I am in the race. It is not perfect, but I can well. I am not in a good mood, but things will ...

It is not an accident that people treat each other differently. What kind of reaction you get depends on how you behave or does your energy match another's personal energy. Some people can't stand you at first sight. There is something that reminds them of someone else, or your personality is not desirable. I know a woman from my neighborhood who loves cats, but she is very irritating. She did nothing bad to me, but her voice and appearance irritate me.  Imagine a situation when a guy treats you badly, but he adores another woman. It is because you press his "bitch button" even you are not aware of this. Laura was not a favorite at her workplace. She was almost antisocial because she could not fit in this community. Women were talking about hairdressers, recipes for cakes, or weather. They asked her about pregnancy and commented on her unusual clothes. Laura was pretty, but not popular because she was on distance, silent, and sassy if someone wou...

You never know who is reading your blog. Maybe you think you are unnoticed because millions of bloggers are in a blogosphere trying to make a success. Maybe you think you will hide between many posts which jump every day on the internet. I thought too. Then I found out that someone I know from reality reads my blog. He said to someone else: "I follow her every day. This is so stupid to read." And another person said: " I think that is very interesting. She has an attitude. She doesn't use a sugar coating."   Well, if something I don't like, I don't read or listen or follow.  For example, I don't listen to Shakira and I don't follow her on social networks. I will not say she is stupid. Her music is not my type of music, so I ignore it. So they might divide your fan zone. If someone follows you and criticizes you, he is still a fan. A bad advertisement is still a promotion. People will use your page to try an act of reveng...