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Relationships: are you watering dead plants?

The basic rule of a relationship is the participation of both sides. When it comes to conversation, pay attention to who is sending messages first. If you are one who always asks your partner how is he and what can you do for him, and he is passive, then it is a one-sided relationship. The same rule is for friendship. Look at this situation. You are always remembering a friend's birthday. You are here to listen to her problems. If she needs a favor, she will run to you. What about you? How many dead plants are you watering? So, he is not answering, ignoring you, and then it comes to your feedback. "What is wrong? Are you angry? Why don't you talk to me?" Forcing your answer, you might get the next reaction: "Are you crazy? What do you want from me?" Or you might get a block. It took a long time that me to realize how not all people are the same. When I am leaving, I will explain my reasons. Some people prefer ghosting. They leave in silence and close their d...

What if a man only wants your body?

Did you ever been in a situation where someone let you like him? He loves your attention, the time that you give him, and your kindness. He is nice toward you because you treat him like a king. But, if you want his heart, you will not get it, because his heart belongs to someone else. Some women make mistakes to get close to a man through friendship. Just because you are always here for him, it doesn't mean you will get his love. Love needs distance, conflicts, and chemistry to develop. Such women will ask, but why did he choose her who was mean toward him, but not me who was always there? Men are hunters. If their trophy is easy to get, they will play like with a rabbit. If you are not an easy trophy, if you run, their hunter's instinct will grow.  Clint got married recently. His wife was beautiful and young, but he craved to be with another woman. He knew her for years, but she was kind of nasty toward him. Her tongue was always fast, she teased him and mad...

How to deal with emotional emptiness?

Emotional emptiness is worse than a breakup. In the state of a breakup, you will yell, cry, or throw anger outside of you. If you are numb, there is only dead silence. It is hard to feel something. Desires died, this emotional thrill is not present anymore. Now there is a desperate attempt to wake up your desires again. Whoever passed through this state, it is familiar to feel like a paper. Now you are somewhere outside. Do you notice someone, where all the sparks went? Handsome boys are outside, but you don't notice. Someone is winking at you, but you don't care. Someone gave you a compliment, but this is annoying. After a breakup with Gavin, Sylvia emotionally failed. This was a stormy relationship, and she felt like she spent all the energy on him. She was again in the game, but nothing excited her more. She picked up her old friend Sam; he was her fig-bird in the past. He was the ideal partner to comforting her. They made love and Sylvia felt app...

What does friendship with an ex-boyfriend really mean?

Everyone has ex - relationships. We build our experiences through failed relationships; we jump in the romances which will not end well. Maybe we know from the beginning there is no future, but it tempts us. Then we make an attempt and it fails. Every past relationship is not a bitter experience. After we froze our feelings and time pass, we could change our romance to friendship. Yes, that person is still in our life, just with a different role. We are not kissing and cuddling anymore, we just want to be there as support.  There is no problem if we have an agreement. You know where is the line. I will talk to you and you have my loyalty, but it doesn't mean that I will jump in your bed when you get horny. If I was in your bed once, it doesn't mean I must do this forever.  The problem appears when your ex uses your friendship like an intro in a sex adventure. So, I am listening to you, and now I will hug you and you will be mine again. You will be in...