Relationships: are you watering dead plants?

The basic rule of a relationship is the participation of both sides. When it comes to conversation, pay attention to who is sending messages first.

If you are one who always asks your partner how is he and what can you do for him, and he is passive, then it is a one-sided relationship.

The same rule is for friendship.

Look at this situation.

You are always remembering a friend's birthday.

You are here to listen to her problems.

If she needs a favor, she will run to you.

What about you? How many dead plants are you watering?

So, he is not answering, ignoring you, and then it comes to your feedback.

"What is wrong? Are you angry? Why don't you talk to me?"

Forcing your answer, you might get the next reaction:

"Are you crazy? What do you want from me?" Or you might get a block.

It took a long time that me to realize how not all people are the same. When I am leaving, I will explain my reasons.

Some people prefer ghosting. They leave in silence and close their doors, lock it and you can't do anything to make them change their mind.

Such people are cowards or have some problems with self-confidence but what connects them is the fact they don't want to talk after their decisions.

Sometimes, it happens those people came back, again without explanations, to feed their ego with your affection.

Don't water your dead plants. They will not blossom. You can get only ugly, faded flowers.

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