Rebelious rules by Kristina Gallo

Everyone wants to have a big number of followers. It is familiar how some famous persons bought followers, to increase their popularity. Having many followers doesn't mean that everyone will support you. If my 10.230 followers bought my book on Twitter, I would be very happy. To see beyond the surface, think about why people follow you: You have a nice profile photo. Guys want to flirt, and women might think you are popular, so they want to be in your crew. If you are a writer, book promoters, cover creators and editors want to earn money on you. Other authors want to offer you their books, to buy them. Trolls have interest too, in spamming your page, wanting to sell you lies, and spreading viruses on your computer. Desperate men who can't find a partner, in reality, try to get a connection with you. I know, it doesn't sound like a fairy tale. It sounds like a nightmare. Well, how to use your big number of followers in the best interest? Talk to them in public. Open a statu...

Connecting with readers is a hard task. In the world of indie authors, competition is big. Every author needs an audience, and famous authors are an advantage. So, you are not John Grisham or Stephen King, and your audience will not come automatically. To make a reader's community, you need to do next: Read some authors' books. If you read other's author's books, they will maybe read yours, especially because they need readers. Promote other people. You need a chain, and as the chain is bigger, your business is better. Show gratitude. Someone gives you your time by reading your book, so you must be grateful. Make interviews. People believe in visuals, so if you were on television, people might be interested in your work if you reached more than 1000 video views. Don't be a brainwasher. That means, don't show: Egoism. Vanity. Don't look down at other people. Pick up your friend's circle. You need to show attitude. If you let people fool you, if someone is...

If you are an indie author, you will publish independently your books. Probably you have no experience with traditional publishing, or you are rejected by publishers.  You will build your reader's base and promote your books. You will make your book cover by yourself, or you will hire professional cover designers. You will pay an editor. After your book will be published, you will ask for reviews. There are millions of indie authors around the world. Many will not sell more than a few books and your investment will not be effective. Some authors will give up, others will follow their passion. In your path to success, you will fall into some traps. I know that from my experience. Aware of the next traps: Fake promises . Some authors will offer you a review swap. It is punished by Amazon, by deleting these reviews. Also, even if you review other's author's books and expect the same, it is not guaranteed that the author will review your book as reciprocity. Unwanted advice. S...

Friendship is a kind of relationship. Two people are hanging out, sharing secrets, and keep each other’s back. Their characters are various and they were raised in different surroundings. Yet, they complete each other and enjoy spending time together. Friendship breaks like a relationship. People split, they separate, and the result is, they don’t talk anymore. Sometimes, they don’t greet each other in the street. They start gossip with each other and it is possible that the former friendship turns into an enemy zone.  Now, why this happened? Not that we hate our friends overnight. It is not we pretended liking and affection.  This is something else. Where do you mistake? I will help you with this. Did you agree with your friend every time? Did you clap your hands on everything he did? Did you support his every action, even you disagreed with this? Did you let him choose your other friends and your priorities? See, here you made a mistake. Even you are a loyal friend, never be...

Do you feel like good things in life avoid you? Everything great happens to someone else. She got birth. She found a great man. He got a promotion at work. He won the lottery.  Also, you might feel you don't fit in the community. It connects everyone here with a common interest, but you are the intruder. People avoid you like a plague because you are different. Don't worry, famous people are usually different. Their ideas are different, and their ways are unusual. How could the average community with some formal rules understand that we are not all the same and that is wrong to push us all into the same box? It is important to see average thinking in the mind of an average employer who is working 8 or more hours daily and who did not hear for the better.  " I must go with my colleague to the business restaurant for lunch. If I sit alone, everyone will think I am a weirdo. I must talk with my colleagues about my private life because I must fit into the...

Looking for a new job? Searching for a partner? Fighting with workmates? These are all situation that needs support. People are like that, they expect someone to hold their side, but it doesn't happen like they imagine. You can't depend on others' support because even if you get it, it will be temporary. People are used to changing sides, and once you did something wrong, your support will vanish. If you are an ordinary person who is not well-positioned in the business world or if you are not rich, you can't count on many people.  Remember the facts: People usually avoid being involved in others' conflicts.  Someone will support you if you give something to him. Give money, return the favor. You will get support if you have a common enemy.  Your support must have more power than your enemy, otherwise, it is useless.  I learned a long time ago, whatever I do, I must learn at myself at first. Everything else is a bonus or a su...

Many girls are publishing their photos on Instagram every day in the hope to get money. Recently Italian Influencer called the police because it deleted her Instagram profile. She said that is like murder because they killed her business. She said that she spent her money quick on Gucci products. When I finished college, I was working voluntarily for one year on the court. I got only travel expenses, but I worked as other employers who got paid. Later on, I waited one year at home to get a real job; I sent 25 requests for the job; I was on 10 job interviews and it took a lot of nerves and patience. Nowadays many young people are lazy, and they want to get money easily. It spoils those who succeed, and much news is about addictions, suicides, or heart attacks that affect people in their twenties. They don't know to appreciate money. Those who can't succeed are disappointed and complain about a stroke of bad luck. It is not pleasant to take your photos seve...

Everyone gets angry. Me, too. I am swearing, using bad words when I get angry. This is a chemical reaction that is stronger than mine, and I can’t help with this. If you ask me, are there results in this kind of communication, the answer is no. Well, if you ask me, will I do it again, I would say yes. The reason insults are bottom of communication is simple. If someone pushes me to this level that I use insults, I just showed my weakness. It means I can’t control my reactions and words, and my provocateur is winning. Recently someone offended me. I returned his favor, but this conflict is not over. It looks like an endless fight where is no winner. It is more painful because I believed in that person. I had trust in him; we shared our life stories. Now, our communication is based on insults. Who will handle more, or who has dirtier imagination? If this is a battlefield, bullets would fly around. I always had a low opinion about men who insult me, especially if I were n...

Your partner is your choice. He is your source of joy or sadness, problems, or enjoyment, whatever takes. Recently I read a story about conflict on the Instagram profile. Domagoj Vida, a famous Croatian football player, is married to Ivana, ex-Miss Universe of Croatia. She is very active on Instagram and a follower said to her that her husband is ugly and that she has a good stomach because she is his wife. She replied harshly and searched for the address of the mean follower, which was a woman. People are mean. Also, people got jealous and envious when someone got rich or became famous. They are asking for flaws and imperfections because when a person is the center of attention; we focus all eyes on him or her. I would say differently if I were in Ivana's place. I would say that I adore my husband and that he would not touch that mean girl even with a stick from the far. People who are asking for imperfections on other's partners have serious problems. If s...