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Never talk about yourself as a loser



We are struggling with various problems. Someone can't be slim. Diets are not working out. Someone can't find a partner. Someone hates their job. We are sometimes in a situation that needs a way out, but the gate is not here.

The worst thing you can do is to mark yourself as a loser. "I need to die." "I am not worthy, I can't do it."

If you make statuses about this is social media, you will not get useful advice. You will get pity, mockery, or preaching. Remember, people don't know you personally, and they will run away from you because you don't like yourself, so how you could gain their affection?

Too much positive attitude is also irritating, so these words make me nervous:

The sun will shine for you too.

Your time will come.

Smile, life is short.


Instead of this, I prefer to say:

I am struggling, but I am in the race.

It is not perfect, but I can well.

I am not in a good mood, but things will change.


When I see Facebook statuses "I am ugly, nobody loves me." or "this girl doesn't notice me, too many guys are around her.", I can make a conclusion about a passive person who gives up any action. Especially if this is a man. Come on, only pussy cry public in social networks, for such lame reasons. Don't forget this is a virtual world, and your own illusion can kill you.

Imagine that you have a bad day, and someone comes to you with their problems, whining and crying on your shoulder. 

Avoid wearing a loser etiquette. This doesn't fit a person who will make a future plan and reach the aim. Even if happiness knocks on your door, you will not recognize it. So, move your ass and rip off this mark from your back. You are not a loser, you just need to change your attitude.

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