Be good to people and they will fool you. True or not? There is a story about a man who accepted a snake in the house, and a snake bites him. While he was dying, he asked: "Why did you do this?" "Because I am a snake" she answered. This old legend talks a lot about human nature. You need not show your soft heart and gentle manners to everyone, hoping to receive it back.
The trouble starts when people remember you as a nice person. You are always available to make someone smile are crossed
People on your list:
A friend who calls you only when he needs something.
A lover who uses you only for sex.
The boss asks you to work overtime when nobody wants this.
The neighbor who makes noise even you warned him more times.
People could be snakes, asking for the opportunity to please themselves, but when you need them, they will get lost so quickly that you will have no time to call them again.
If you have a reputation as a person with an attitude, that will not happen often. You might not be the most popular, but your doors are free from beggars and opportunists. They know, if they ask something from you, you will slam the door in their faces.
Also, try to make a difference between real and fake promises.
Fake promise:
"Well, I will do it, but I don't know when. Now I am not free. I will let you know." The next step is another delay.
Real promise:
"Now I am not available, but next week I will call you.," The next step is a concrete answer.
Human relationships are games but don't be a player who will always lose because he did not play right.
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