Skip to main content

You can't change a man's personality



There is a quote: You can't bake a cake from shit. That is how is with a man's nature: you can't change a bad personality.

If you are hanging out with a man who is primitive, uneducated, and promiscuous, you can't expect to turn him into a noble gentleman. 

Women who claim to change a man's personality, lie.

They live in illusion because if the change happened, it is not because they did it.

Reasons why men change their attitude are:

They passed through a bad breakup or divorce.
They got old.
They feel lonely.
They are mature and tired of games and flirting.
They fall in love with younger women.


When his time comes, a man will do basic things to change his approach to relationships. He could pretend to catch young women, rich women, or get rid of bad habits. Sometimes, this is cruelty: he was using women for sex in the past, now he is acting like a gentle daddy to his child. Women will be mean and said "I was the right one, I made a man from him", but this is not true. 

A man in his twenties is not the same as a man in his forties. Why do many marriages fail when a man marries too young? He was not ready for obligations, kids, hanging out with relatives, bills, and daily routine.
When my neighbor, a young married couple with a little kid argued, he said he can't stand his wife is yelling and barking. He did not use it. He was drinking, having fun in the nightclubs and now he is constantly hearing screaming children and his nagging wife. 

A frightened man will change when he gets old. Now there is no woman to take care of him, his sexual power is limited and he will accept conditions just to avoid loneliness. This happens when a young woman is in the game, the old man will do everything to keep her, even to be her toy. 

Not every man is the same, so some will stay single because they did not accept obligations. Their lifestyle includes flirting, drinking, and friends, so this is how they like it. 

Change is not an act of the magic sword. This happens inside or never happens. 

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Should we respond to negative reviews?

Recently I had a discussion in my social media about negative ratings. There was a situation in Goodreads, where I got two negative reviews on my two books. The point was in the way how the ratings were set up. First rating for my book "Body in the waves" was placed under 5-star review from another reviewer. While the reviewer praising my book, the troll came under to say "This is really bad book." Second rating was described as " Poor author needs writing lessons." Both reviews broke standards of reviewing, because there is no visible evidence that book was downloaded in Kindle unlimited or purchased. It was a clear troll act from a new page, without a profile photo and with a nickname. I reported this to Goodreads and they responded me they are processing this. Meanwhile, I heard from other authors that Goodreads failed to do anything about trolling.  In these terms, Goodreads should delete such profiles and forbid the access because of breaking rules. T...

Why the refund is damaging indie authors?

I understand someone can be disappointed with a book. It is like I was disapointed with my trousers online and returned it. What makes a difference, my trousers were 40 euros. The book was 2.49 cents. This makes return funny, because what can you do with this money? Some readers don't understand story behind the refund. The author will get minus royalties. - 0.13 c in my Kindle report, that will vanish when someone else buy the book. The situation happens. Someone accidentaly clicked and bought a book. A random customer wants a refund. Maybe it was not a random move. Maybe the customer clicked, bought and did not like the book. When you don't like the book choose another options, instead of damaging authors. Write a negative review. Write negative one star rating. Don't purchase another books from this author. Or, maybe to reconsider and read it, again? If you write negative reviews or rate it with 1 or 2 stars, you are making a favor to authors. You are moving algorithms i...

Five myths about promo sites

Recently I asked for a featured Bookbub deal for one of my books. I got response that my book should be free priced and my expense would be 230 dollars. This is really funny, because I could expect people grab my book for free and give me one star (as it happens when books are available for everyone). To pay such amount of money would be waste and without a purpose. I am mix of traditional and indie author. Having a publisher, but not bestseller books, I am looking for ways to increase my book sales. Promo sites like Bookbub are very expensive and they offer their deals for 25% books from authors who applied for this. I had an insight to author's books who grabbed Bookbub deals. It works will authors who are already selling a good amount of their books. In general, promo sites are not working for favor of indie authors. These are five myths about promo sites: Promo sites give many readers. It is not true, because you will get visibility and many trolls, but not readers. Promo sites...