When you expect something, you are on needles. This should be this day, this week, this year, and still is not there. You send to apply for a job and nobody responds to you? You called this sweet girl and she did not answer at your call? The friend forgot about you even you invited him to party?
The expectation is a whore. If you expect something great, it might disappoint you when you get an average result. For sure you might remember your facial expression when someone bought a gift for your birthday. You wanted expensive perfume, and a friend bought you spray. Now she expects gratitude, and you will say: - Thanks, it is nice. Indeed, all you wish is to strangle her because you expected more from your best friend.
Don't be naive in your judgment. If you think that giving much means getting much, this math formula doesn't work in that way. The classic story is hidden in love relations.
All the girls were running for the same guy in class. Lew was a macho dude, sexy, smart and with a great sense of humor. Girls wore short skirts just to get noticed. Pamela solved his home works, and Celia defended him when the teacher accuses him of a fight in the classroom. In the end, Lew chose Caroline. She was not on his back as other girls. She was realistic, objective, even rude. They even did not talk sometimes, because Caroline rejected to support him in a runaway from class. Lew saw the challenge and wanted to date with her.
I don't say that you should never expect anything from anyone. It is natural that we expect big things from beloved people, friends, and family. They might surprise us, but also disappointment is possible.
When you don't expect, you are more objective.
When you don't expect, you can't be disappointed.
When you don't expect, you don't feel anger.
The situation, when you don't expect, makes you feel freer and with more logical sense. Also, it will let you insight into pleasant surprises. You are not influenced by fear, how you will survive if you don't get a job, if you don't get a love for return or if you are not invited to a party. Your mind is free from delusions.
You are not pimp to this whore, because you don't expect any more.