Do you throw your frustrations to others?

You know the feeling when someone is getting on your nerves, but for some reason, you can't respond properly. You depend on this person and you will swallow your rage. When rage is placed deep inside you, it will find a way out.

This rage is traveling until the right target. So, the poor victim is the third person, someone who is in the wrong place at the wrong time.

The mother comes home after an exhausting day at work. Her boss gave her a hard time, but little daughter asks for attention, she wants her favorite candy or she lost her Barbie doll,  so the mother should help her to find where it is.

- Damn, leave me alone. I can't open my eyes, I am so tired. Can't you give me a little peace?

The little girl will be offended without special reason, just because her mother did not face it with problem eyes to eyes with their causer.

A new man comes to a business company, he progressed as a boss. His employers are in fear because they don't know when he will explode. He is recently divorced, and his wife escape with another man and their two children, so he is in the middle of a court battle for custodial services. All the time angry and frustrated, he doesn't see his employers. What he notices are not indeed his employers, they are just symbols in this situation. He can be unkind and rude toward them because they are a replacement for a wife who is untouchable.

Shifted aggression is divided into attackers and victims. 

If someone tries to hurt you without reason, ask yourself what is bothering him or her. Those are internal demons and they want to swim out.

These are signs of shifted aggression:

The person yells without reason or raises his voice.

A person accuses you of something you did not do.

Person provokes you, just an intention that you will fight back.

The person doesn't want to see what you did well. He is interested only in possible mistakes.


These magic words "calm down" or "relax" will make even more bad effects. Just wait until storm pass. Maybe to offer a cup of coffee or tea or tell them a good joke?