Do you throw your frustrations to others?

You know the feeling when someone is getting on your nerves, but for some reason, you can't respond properly. You depend on this person and you will swallow your rage. When rage is placed deep inside you, it will find a way out.

This rage is traveling until the right target. So, the poor victim is the third person, someone who is in the wrong place at the wrong time.

The mother comes home after an exhausting day at work. Her boss gave her a hard time, but little daughter asks for attention, she wants her favorite candy or she lost her Barbie doll, so the mother should help her to find where it is.

- Damn, leave me alone. I can't open my eyes, I am so tired. Can't you give me a little peace?

The little girl will be offended without special reason, just because her mother did not face it with problem eyes to eyes with their causer.

A new man comes to a business company, he progressed as a boss. His employers are in fear because they don't know when he will explode. He is recently divorced, and his wife escape with another man and their two children, so he is in the middle of a court battle for custodial services. All the time angry and frustrated, he doesn't see his employers. What he notices are not indeed his employers, they are just symbols in this situation. He can be unkind and rude toward them because they are a replacement for a wife who is untouchable.

Shifted aggression is divided into attackers and victims.

If someone tries to hurt you without reason, ask yourself what is bothering him or her. Those are internal demons and they want to swim out.

These are signs of shifted aggression:

The person yells without reason or raises his voice.

A person accuses you of something you did not do.

Person provokes you, just an intention that you will fight back.

The person doesn't want to see what you did well. He is interested only in possible mistakes.

These magic words "calm down" or "relax" will make even more bad effects. Just wait until storm pass. Maybe to offer a cup of coffee or tea or tell them a good joke?

Comments

The book based on true events

A paperback version is on Amazon. Genre: Contemporary romance, young adult short novel Place of action: Croatia Alert : based on true story The blurb: Valentina lives in a small town. The priorities for women are to get marry in twenties. Fighting with prejudices, Valentina has an open relationship with a local hooligan. The love story will develop in a wrong direction. Valentina will learn important life lessons. The review: Clear, sharp, legible, written in Kristina's recognizable style. An interesting, powerful, instructive story - when an intelligent woman falls in love with a bad man. This is a real-life story that happens to many women. The story shows that intelligent women and common sense are not immune to falling in love with bad men and the thought that they can change them. A love story that is not really a romantic story. Love is one-sided. Love is stronger than reason, but until a moment when everything has changed. Purchase link: Seduced by...

A satirical guideline about seducing

If you like a self-help guidelines with a doze of sarcasm, I recommend you "The best skills of seducing for every woman ". Written in a form of short stories, this book compares advices that grandma told us with viral skills of seducing. Every woman who wants to know why she lost her boyfriend and why she can't win the competition will find her answers in the book. Here are arguments that break old judgments and traditional opinions. The review: Kristina Gallo has a new book for you. Young or old, child or parent, lady or gent, this book gives you a balanced insight over what it takes to make your own way in this fast-moving society. The author points out that the skills of seduction transcend generations, they are here from the dawns of history and will stay as long as the sun will shade its shine upon the surface of this planet. Actually, it's not about seduction but about our personal talents in exploiting this natural resource. This is simp...

Swapping books - a devil's deal

"I will read your book if you read and review mine." This is an example of author's deal when it comes time for reviews. Reviews is hard to get. If you sell books, it is still not guarantee you will get reviews. If I could get a review for every book I sold, it would be great. People will buy book to collect it on the shelves and leave it un-read. Or, they will read but not rate it. Many reasons are for not getting reviews, but some people don't know where and how to write reviews or are not eligible. That is the reason why authors will turn to other authors, with a proposition for review. The danger of such review is on Amazon rules: author can't review other's author books on request. I love to read indie authors and they inspire me, but I have my circle and I never accept offers to read someone I never heard about. Once I got a proposition :" Hey, I saw your review for XX author, can you write it for me, too?" I ignored it. When you have a deal ...

Rebelious rules by Kristina Gallo

Search This Blog