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Which is the price of modesty?




Be a good and modest person and everybody will love you. That is a kind of attitude to avoid conflicts, judgments or to be accepted in society as a good member. That is a small line of resistant, don't fight, don't argue and you will live a peaceful life.

Modesty has good sides, so modest person knows where is her place, don't ask for impossible things, stays firm on the ground and know to control herself. Also, a modest person knows to value what she owes. She is grateful to even for small things. 

If you are born as a modest person, and you live accord this principle because you like it, this is your right. This is part of your personality, you like to walk, you don't need BMW, you will buy clothes in second-hand shops because you don't like brand fashion. 




Conformists love to say what others love to hear. Modesty is sometimes connected with conformism because pushing yourself in the corner is similar. When you are modest, you sustain some material wealth, and when you are conformist, you sustain of rebellion just to please others.

If you say that you are ambitious and that you are different than others, you will be considered as a pretentious egoist with vanity.  You will be Louis XIV, pretentious France king.

Self-confidence and self-respect are not appetites for the destruction of others. If I say that I love nice clothes and long journeys, I will not be Imelda Marcos. I just have high standards toward some things and values. 

Being modest doesn't mean that you gain real values because you don't want to enjoy some benefits. It is your choice, but why to push your choice to others?

It is wrong to kiss the ground and to announce yourself as a saint, modest angel, because of your rating in the top list in this society. Yes, you don't like me because I am not modest, but I will not cry for this.

If I say: "You can do better.", do I underestimate your modesty as value? Modesty doesn't stream to maximum, it is pleased with golden middle or even minimal results. The bad side of modesty is a situation where you underestimate yourself because you are maybe not aware of your possibilities, maybe your humility made a big shadow over your power. 

I look at modesty as a kind of curtain. If a guy loves a modest girl, he will make an effort to seduce her, even he is maybe a too big trophy for her, in her eyes. If a girl loves a modest guy, she will take this as a challenge if she is different, if she loves the race and breaking limits. 

Look at someone in casual clothes, and you will think how modest is this person. Just, that is not a complete picture. The modest person could have the joker in the pocket. Poker face is a good sign for modest people because they can win the race at the end.



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