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How to push someone to make a final decision?





Million plans and wishes, and little time for realization. Life is short for all big dreams we wish to realize, and if we don't use every suitable moment, we are as gamblers who lost big amount of money. There is no worse thing than gambling with time. Something gone and that moment will never come back.

Delay is the enemy of every action. As much we delay more time we will spend. One day we will stand in front of the wall, unable to jump over it, because it is too high. One of the ways to move in life is a syndrome of the last minute.

When we stand and look into our last chance, the heart will beat very fast. So, this is it. Final chance to pass this exam or you will repeat the year. Last chance to propose that girl or she will leave you alone. Last offer at your work, take it or leave it. Adrenaline jump very high, you are pressured so what to do now?

People react very differently in the time of pressure. I am one of the people who will react very positive to last chance. So, this is it, there is no return, do it or miss it forever. So if I slept until now, if I was so passive, when I see that last opportunity is running, I will press my autopilot to catch it. Some other people are frozen in this situation. That kind of pressure can block them and they cannot move. The alarm clock is too big an obstacle for them and that little dose of motivation is destroyed now.

Last-minute has magical influence. Aron and Edith were dating for seven years. It was never the right time that he could propose her. He delayed this situation so much, that was chewing gum, and it stayed too long in his mouth, that taste was bitter. Time was passing and he was more and more far from marriage. One day Aron accidentally took a cell phone from his girlfriend. She had a bath and phone was ringing, so Aron answered on her call. It was a male voice, and he said: "Are you her brother? I wish to speak with sweet Edith. " Aron never felt so furious. 

Edith later explained to him that he got a new colleague at the office and he wanted some tips about work from her, so they exchanged numbers. He was very clumsy and possible trouble for her work, so she decided to give him tips. Next days, Aron was a witness of a long conversation between Edith and her new roommate. After one week, she paid more attention on this stranger, than to his boyfriend. So Aron decided to surprise her. He bought a ring and propose to her , when she did not expect this at all. 

- Why now? I wanted this a long time ago, but you were deaf in my wishes.
- Because I don't want to lose you. I don't want some office rat jump in my place. You are my girlfriend, my future wife.

Edith laughed so much but she accepted the offer. It was last minute joker for Aron, and it worked out, even she did not move a little finger to rush this situation.

The last-minute is a needle. You stab someone with the possibility of the end, that is kind of threat against people who hesitate too much. Who delayed things for a so long time, in fact, he did not want realization. Now, you can ask the final answer or give up on your wish. Time is cruel, you can't bring back past days, but you can stop someone to spend your precious moments day by day. 

Use last chance as your joker in the pocket. If it doesn't give results, that is answer on your questions. There is nothing more, no hope, no expectations, no bad surprises. That is gem, set and match in this game of life.

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