One quote said: Be good to others and they will be good for you. The good act will be returned by another good act.
I disagree with this because the world is not fair to place. In life, we will meet various people, and some will really appreciate good deeds and they will do everything to show appreciation and gratitude when you do something for them. This story has another side, about people who take others for granted. They are recipients, not givers. They constantly ask for donors, but rarely open their heart to do something for others.
A very sensitive area for giving and receiving is love. When we fall in love and when love is not mutual, or at least is not equal, our limits will be very foggy. We can do things we never thought of before. We can suffer and handle such actions we never did.
Passionate love can ruin our pride and dignity, and we will not be aware of this. At least, we did it for him, for her, for love of our life.
Sheila really loved Liam, and he was playing with her from time to time. He liked her, she was funny, exciting and interesting, but deep down inside him was a little dictator and he wanted to shape her accord his wishes. She was not a woman accord his standards, the woman he wished to marry. She was kind of spontaneous, wild, and he wanted a traditional lady who will stay at home and cook until he is on a football match with friends.
She suffered a lot. She cut her hair when he asked this. She lost 10 kilograms at her weight. She was in a cooking class, to learn how to make his favorite cake. They lived together and she wanted to make him happy. One day he introduced her to his ex-fiance. Naomi was classy and rude, kind of bitch type, and she used provocative words during their common lunch. Liam did not say a word to support Sheila. The next day he suggested Sheila change color of her hair, into red, similar to Naomi. Sheila lost her nerves and refused his request.
In that relation, Sheila lost a big part of her pride. She started to hate herself. He took her for granted. When she rejected his order, she felt better. She left the cooking class and Liam was more furious. She offered him hamburger for the next lunch, a sign of her defiance. Then he started to melt. He was now ready for negotiations.
Sometimes, we must show teeth. As long we are just givers, we don't know about different feelings. How is it to receive love, attention, and affection? How is to be appreciated?
Some people are spoiled. They are not ready to do nothing for others until they feel that their beloved will shake the ground under them. When they start to lose a game, it will wake up their fear. What, I will lose my personal slave? That should not happen.
If you don't know how to give, you can learn from someone who spends all affection on you. Later, when you lose that person, you will feel emptiness. Maybe it will be too late.
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