"I am strong. I am independent. I know how to deal with things alone. "
How many times have you heard of this sentence? Some people are ashamed of their emotions, they refuse to admit that they need support when life becomes hard. They are craving a hug, but they will not ask for help. They are afraid of reactions, it is not socially acceptable to show your emotions.
"Hey, this is life. Squeeze your teeth and go on with your obligations. Nobody cares anyway. "
The perception of weakness is wrongly understood . It is very cool and popular to say that you are a strong woman who refuses men, but if you say that you need a hug people will mock you because this is a kind of weakness.
If you look behind the surface, you understand that being weak in some circumstances could be an advantage.
If you admit your real feelings, you will reveal your emotional side.
This is not bad, emotional people are passionate, creative, and empathetic.
If you admit that you cried because of something, you might wake up a gentle side of your rival. Yes, you might manipulate, but it is easier to negotiate in the conflict's case.
If you admit your weak side, you reveal your human side. We are not robots; it is normal to cry and feel helpless in some situations.
Even though some people will mock you if you show tears, ask for help or show your breakdown, this is a healthy part. It is not normal to choke the anger or rage inside of you, it could explode in an undesirable direction.
When Vesna came back from work, she hugged her husband. She was tired of rude colleagues, a heartless boss, and impossible work conditions. After 10 years at her workplace, she was sharing the room in an office with 3 nasty women, and when she complained to a boss; she stayed cold as the ice. She wanted to talk to a friend, but she was too busy with her two children. She wanted to talk with her sister, but she was tired of working overtime. Her husband made her dinner and hugged her. She cried and smiled at the same time.
We all need a hug sometimes, but not everyone will admit this. How do we become insensitive and cruel in this cold world?
The man was drunk and throw garbage around, but nobody reacted to this. It happened today. Maybe he needed a hug, and nobody cared.
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