It doesn't matter if you are not a chosen one

When you are chosen, you have certain benefits. Someone is eliminated because it chooses you. Someone is in the second place because you took the first one. Someone is in the background because you are sitting in the first line.

We all like to be chosen by someone or for something. If I ask you why you are chosen, you say that you deserve it. You deserve a promotion; you deserve a proposal; you deserve the crown. If you are chosen by someone's free will, this is your privilege.

What happens when you are not the chosen one? You wanted to be someone's friend, but they rejected you. You wanted to date this special person, but he/she refuses your offer.

How you will accept the word NO depends on your maturity and your attitude.

If you accept this quick, without questions, you are free to go forward. For me, it has no sense to insist on if someone did not choose me. The world is big, full of people who want to be my friends and if someone did not see my qualities I will not explain my values.

The confusion happens when a person did not give clear signs she did not choose you.

Hypocrites or conformists love to play double games because they wish that everyone likes them, so they will build a space for people who are not their friends, but who will be here like a backup, a replacement if the first choice gives up or move forward.

Here are signs that a person did not choose you, even you did not get a clear NO:

You offered your phone number, and a person claims he forgot to type it.

You invited someone to a party, but he went with someone else, without notifying you.

Two people are talking about their plans in your presence, but they did not invite you with them.

Someone invited you to the date when the first choice rejected the offer, and you found it later.

I will say you, it doesn't matter if you are not a chosen one, but it matters to show your attitude and your character.

Don't accept pieces of cake.

Don't be here when someone who hesitated chooses you.

You can ask a person, why he needs you after so long a time, why he did not notice you before.

Say no because saying yes means that you waited in a line.

Some people think they are better than others. I rejected people in my life, for many reasons, but I never thought I am worthier than them. I did it because I felt unpleasant in their company or because we have nothing in common or I already made my preferences.

Remember your childhood, when children sabotage your birthday party when they play with dolls without inviting you and when they mock you because your parents are not rich. Some people stayed at this level. They can't solve problems like adults.

For sure every one of you was in the situation when you come to the coffee bar, and your friend is saying: "But, my people are not here. "

Why is necessary to fit in, to be chosen by the same people all the time? If you are not a chosen one, it gives you the freedom to try something different. To meet a stranger. To date, with the awesome guy. To find another job.

If you look from another perspective, it really doesn't matter if you are not a chosen one.