You need a shoulder for crying? You need an honest comment about how you look today? You want to share a secret without a fear that someone else will know?
Tell it to your male buddy. I am not kidding. If you have or you had a male buddy, you are a lucky woman. Unless he feels more about you then you have a problem.
Male-female friendship is possible and stronger than a friendship between two females.
I will tell you differences which give an advantage to a man instead of a woman’s friend.
Your male friend will never get jealous of you.
You will not fight with him because you might like the same guy.
You can talk to him about topics which women don’t like: football, cars, kickboxing.
He will give you aim advice about other men.
You can swear with him without getting his judgment.
If he gets married and has kids, he will still pay attention to you because he is his friend.
Unfortunately, a woman’s nature might be double-faced, evil, and competitive. After women get married and have kids, they make the selection. Suddenly, they forget friends from their youth, especially those who don’t have kids and make a new circle with the other moms. Her problems will become invisible compared to her problems with motherhood, because if you did not give birth “you still don’t know what is life.”
Men keep their friends from childhood until the end of their lives. They will go fishing, football matches, or any activities even they are fathers and husbands.
I will tell you what happens at parties. I was the only woman at the birthday party which my husband organized and I had so much fun. Nobody asked me about kids, my haircut, or cleaning the house. They treated me like an equal part of their community and talked with me about football and music.
When I was at another party with couples, their women said: “And you, when you will have kids?”
I don’t say that all women are the same, but friendship with men has many advantages, at least because men don’t care about gossips. They don’t listen. What you say to him goes on one ear and exits on another ear. It is cool to have a male friend because he doesn’t judge you like women do if you are not like them.
If you have experience with a good buddy who is a man, write.
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