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Are you afraid of losing friends?



Before you imagine yourself alone in this world, remember the important message: The real friend can't be lost. 

During life, we meet different people to hang out with. You will enter a social circle as a child, and other children will not always accept you. They will hit you, scratch you, yell at you, and sometimes you will cry in the corner because nobody loves you.

In a teenager's phase, you are streaming to be popular. I invite popular people to dates, and parties and everyone loves them. Your disappointment will be bigger if your favorite ones reject you.

When you work, your profession will mark your environment. Some people will try to sabotage you, others will gossip and you will try to fit in. It doesn't matter if you are the best person with the best qualities, there will be always someone who will dislike you.


You will never lose real friends.

Do you know why?

Real friends take not only from you but also give.

Real friends accept critics.

Real friends don't ignore you without a good reason.

Real friends will not leave your side because of their ego trip. 



If you are a flexible person, you will always find your supporters. 

There is a contradictory thing: you will find friends when you show people that you can live without them. Despair rejects people because nobody wants to hang out with the emotional vampire. 

Also, you will find friends if you don't afraid of losing them. If you show people that you are a person with principles and that they can't mess with you, respect is yours.

You will find good friends if you refuse to be a donkey or a social clown. People who always make jokes are funny, but nobody gets them seriously. If you accept everything that people throw at you, you are a regular fool. Show them your teeth and your limits, and you will gain their respect.

You will find friends if you are ready to pick different people. Why should you always hang out with the same personalities? Try to make friends with different cultures, and different religions, and don't be aware of them.

Remember: loyalty and respect are universal, they will not mark by nationality or religion. 

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