Are you a judgmental friend?

People love to look down on someone, just to feel powerful. Judgments are something you can't avoid in gossip's circle, but if the topic is your friend things become uglier.

Even in virtual circles, people love to warn each other about their friends. Sometimes I get messages about this "dangerous guy", "filthy woman", "maniac" or "pervert." Especially if the sender is an unknown person, I ignore it.

What I think about judgment?

I am not a jury. I am not perfect, either. If I chose someone as a friend, I will not judge him.

I accept a friend with all the imperfections. We are humans, not robots.

Judging someone means that you are an insecure person. Asking failures with a magnifier means that you are not able to accept someone's personality.

People change in a way that life and circumstances changed them.

Why is judgment ridiculous?

Everybody has a past. If you stole a chocolate egg when you were a kid, it will not mark you till the end of your life.

Your mind should not be limited. If you are not able to cross over a friend's mistakes, why expect that someone forgives your mistakes, too?

You never know when you can do the same mistakes as your friend, before. If your friend betrayed and cheated, who knows what you can do? Can you swear that you would not do a mistake, never?

A judgmental friend is a fake friend. It means, he likes you while you are shining, but at the moment when you stand in the dirt, he will turn you back. It is easy to love someone who is popular, rich, beautiful, pure, and successful. What happens when a person does a mistake and gets a judgmental mark? Will you pretend that you don't know him anymore?

Before you judge, it is good to take a look in front of your door. Also, it is good to talk with that person, to understand what is the real truth, before you make the conclusion. Judgment is a basic element of rumors, so if you hear people are gossiping, check the facts twice.

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