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It is better to be alone than with fake friends



Some people love to live in illusion. Nobody comes to your birthday party? Don't pity yourself, if you are alone, you are in good company. On the other hand, imagine that 10 people come to your birthday, and none of them isn't loyal.

Dubravka organized a birthday in a coffee bar.  She gathered ten girls to celebrate her 18th birthday. They came with gifts and she paid for them for drinks. Those were her guests. Until she was unpacking gifts, they talked to each other and neglected Dubravka. One of the girls, Simona, was the center of attention because her ex-boyfriend Robert entered the bar. 

"Oh, look who is here. Your ex, Simona." girls murmured.

"What are you doing here?" Robert approached the table, without greeting Dubravka.
Simona blushed and covered her face with palms.
The unpleasant silence filled the air. Robert took a deep sigh and said:
"So, have fun. "

The rest of the evening girls were talking about Robert. Nobody asked Dubravka how she feels, what she wished for a birthday. She was on the edge of tears, especially when one of the girls, Ivana, said later: "All was spinning around Simona at your party."

So, I am asking you, would Dubravka better spend her time with her parents, alone or with such friends?

People are afraid of loneliness. They will rather gather fake friends around than face it with themselves. 

They will sit in the corner of the party where they feel unpleasant. 

They will stand in a circle where nobody asks their opinion. 

They will forcibly smile at jokes which are not funny to them. 


If you don't have your circle, don't be sad. We are not alone anyway. You are surrounded by colleagues at work. Your neighbors will not be quiet around you. You are not alone in the street. I know what you think, you are not close to anyone.

Well, you have your secrets for yourself. Nobody knows what is your weakness and which are your secret desires. Also, in the age of the internet is impossible to feel alone. There are millions of virtual friends who are waiting for you.

So, even you are alone, in fact, you are not lonely. You don't need to accept hypocrisy, fakeness, and the illusion of friendship.

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