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Why people are following and un-following in social media?




What do you expect from the internet? Is it a place where you will meet the love of your life or earn money? Or do you just want to have fun or talk to someone, because you are feeling lonely?

If you promote yourself on social media, one of your basic problems or obstacles is people who are following and unfollowing you. This is an unhealthy balance and fake support because one day your number of followers is lower when you realize some of them were unfollowing you.

It is especially visible on Instagram. As someone who has an Instagram account, my number of followers is decreasing and increasing, depending on the circumstances.

Why your followers are unfollowing you?

Ego burst. They think they are famous, good-looking, and rich and you are not their match. Sad, but true, many people on Instagram do that to make others feel important in the eyes of the public.

Expectations. People expect you will give them your free time, to pay attention to them, talk or open the camera. When this doesn't happen they will unfollow you.

Illusions and reality. Some of the followers expect you will give them likes every day, buy their books or write reviews, and if that doesn't happen, they will go.

The algorithm is deleting them. Fake accounts, trolls, and rule breakers will vanish from your sites because the algorithm is deleting them.



I am not a supporter of the habit to follow everyone who is following me. If the account is empty, without photos, or if a person just started a profile, I will not follow them unless I don't know them from before. Once when I follow a person I will not press unfollow unless the person is not active anymore or the person is annoying me privately. 

Time is money and everyone should find a circle to talk to people who are sharing common interests. If "hi" and "how are you" are the only things you know to say, you are eliminated.

The age of technological progress gives some illusions to people who are egocentric, they think everyone should fancy them. I am allergic to orders, in the sense "hey, give me like and follow". That is unpolite. 

Why should I follow someone? I will follow people who impressed me with their personality, attitude, and conversation. 

I am not impressed by sweet words, famous etiquette (I don't follow celebrities), or recommendations. 

So, what are your standards to follow someone?


Comments

Eva Pasco said…
Since most of my FB friends are published authors, I'm inclined to follow them. I don't pay much attention to the dynamics. If someone wants to unfollow me, good riddance.

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