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Couples: how to recognize destructive relationships?




Your choice is your curse. The moment you fell in love with someone you will define your destiny. The object of your desire, something you crave is your master.

Many women fell in love with guys who are abusive, or bossy. There is something in harsh attitude, sexy vibrations when someone throws orders. Especially insecure women with a lack of self-confidence will see a savior in a dangerous guy, who knows what he wants and how to get it.

Unfortunately, that description is only a shallow view of a man who wants to control women.

How to recognize signs that you love an abuser, even if he doesn't beat you?

He always has the right attitude. If you have your opinion, he will consider you a stupid one.

If you try to have a conflict with him, he will attack you and insult you.

He will block you from every attempt to negotiate with him.

He will find your replacement, a woman who agrees with him.

His abusive behavior could be insulting, humiliating, and underestimating a woman who is with him in the relationship.


The aggressive guy is manipulating women. If you show your attitude, he will think you are sexy, but this will make you a target. His desire is to enslave you. This game is endless. You will never change him, he might pretend for a while but in general, his character stays.

What you can do?

Stay away from him.

Talk to him, but from distance, be formal, cold, and polite.

Block his every attempt to approach you.


Abusive guys often have a backup, a quiet woman who supports their side, but she can't satisfy his needs for challenges and risks. He is in confrontation with himself because he can't handle a strong female character, but a weak character can't satisfy his needs. That is why this kind of guy wants a wife and mistress. 


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