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How to push someone to make a final decision?

Million plans and wishes, and little time for realization. Life is short for all big dreams we wish to realize, and if we don't use every suitable moment, we are as gamblers who lost big amount of money. There is no worse thing than gambling with time. Something gone and that moment will never come back. Delay is the enemy of every action. As much we delay more time we will spend. One day we will stand in front of the wall, unable to jump over it, because it is too high. One of the ways to move in life is a syndrome of the last minute. When we stand and look into our last chance, the heart will beat very fast. So, this is it. Final chance to pass this exam or you will repeat the year. Last chance to propose that girl or she will leave you alone. Last offer at your work, take it or leave it. Adrenaline jump very high, you are pressured so what to do now? People react very differently in the time of pressure. I am one of the people who will react very positive...

How to eliminate rage?

You are angry with your boss, friend, relatives? You want to kick some asses or to slap someone? This feeling is familiar to everyone. Even the calmest person has a moment of "yellow minutes" when the feeling of rage takes over. Whatever reason for anger was, we want revenge on the culprit, causer of this anger. Here is an imagined picture, black eye or tears on his eyes, that guy who deserves to be punished. I wish to make miserable this girl. How dare she, to make me angry like that? The feeling of anger has many sources. This comes out from disrespect or denials. It is not easy when someone underestimates our deeds and feelings, and when someone plays with us. When we can't fight back in a proper way, we are powerless. Yes how great it would be to slap my boss but I will lose a job in this case. I would spit on my doctor because I got an appointment with him and I waited 2 hours in the clinic, but I can't do it.  Savage people will have simple...

Do you more give or take?

Quid pro quo, that is an old Latin proverb. It means, gives and take. If you ask for a favor, I will do it, but next time I will need feedback. If you don't want to help me I will consider you as selfish. Ask next time something from me and you will not get it. Human relations should be based on reciprocity, as we have two hands on one body. I give you love and I expect your love for return. I am loyal to you, I will not screw you, but also I am not a fool. If you think that I am not worthy of your respect and loyalty, for sure I will know this and you will lose my affection. A selfish person will hardly understand the meaning of reciprocity. So, I am used that others please to my wishes. It comes out from childhood. Mother made a cake for me but I don't want to wash dishes. She will wash instead of me. My friend did my homework because I did not know-how. She asked me to borrow her skirt, but I can't do this, I don't lend my clothes. A selfish person ...

Do you listen to the sound of the intuition?

There is something you need to do and suddenly you know-how. You have no skills and knowledge about certain things, but something whispers in your ear that you are on good way. That is the voice of intuition. Psychologist Gary Klein said that 90% of critical decisions we bring on the basis of intuition. When we are on the crossroad, intuition is an additional feeling we can lean on. How many times we heard "my feeling inside never lie" or "I felt something is wrong" or "I had this signal that everything will be ok. " Previous signs can warn us before some bad events. You are going on a journey but somehow you feel unpleasant pain in the stomach. You can't explain the source of it and how it happens, but it follows you all the time. Dorothy was traveling in Spain. On beach Costa Brava she lost her money and documents, indeed someone stole her purse. She was swimming and when she came back her things just disappeared. She had big problems...